“Too many people are focused on swiping left or right on someone. There’s no more going out for coffee or meeting up to actually get to know someone.”
My last relationship ended over text. He just sent me a message saying, ‘You decided you wanted something better.’ I inquired about what he meant, but he said he did not really know and broke up with me.
Now, I am single, and for the most part, I am enjoying my single life. I’m not going to say the usual ‘being single is way less stressful.’
To me, there is not a huge difference between maintaining a relationship with a best friend versus a significant other. Yet, as a single person, I am free to do what I want without any issues.
While I do not hate social media, it is making chance encounters less frequent—almost extinct really. Too many people are focused on swiping left or right on someone.
There’s no more going out for coffee or meeting up to actually get to know someone. That is a huge way in which my generation’s dating has changed. I honestly think it is harder to date in 2018 because of technology.
People have cellphones that always distract them during dates. Or they will stalk potential dates, leaving no mystery for the date.
I don’t think movies or television has influenced my dating life. Dating apps, however, have led to more hook ups and cringy messages, instead of steady relationships.
One time, my friends and I decided to all download Tinder during a sleepover. Even though I was not interested, I did not want to sit out alone, so I downloaded it. Then, I spent the night typing with people who either ghosted after a few messages or were just interested in sleeping together.
That’s why I am kind of sad that dating in 2018 has changed so much since the past. I always thought that men were nice and gentlemanly—at least, stereotypically.
Now, there’s so much judgement and cynicism attached to dating.
For example, my class once debated on if a man opening a door for a woman is sexist or not. I do not think so! It’s being polite!
Dating has become either too jaded or too mindless. That’s not how dating should be.